Sometimes it's hard to clear the air after you've been subjected to the negative actions of chaotic people. I mean the truly chaotic, the ones who cannot break their illusions, can't tell what is right and what is wrong, mix them up, fall into a chasm, tumbling through jumbled values. The overriding wish most of us have is that sanity will be restored in them so we can feel all right about ourselves, but it's not going to happen. They will tell you things to try to drag you down with them. You cannot raise the truly fallen angels up.
They have to do it themselves.
In those times you must shut all psychic doors and abandon them. You have to work through your own guilt at doing it. You have to work through their abusive cries. And find the things that make you most certain that you know your own good, your own wisdom, your own wings. Don't ever let the fallen make you feel that you cannot fly.